Friends, red friends, blue friends, tall friends, short friends, everywhere in between friends. We need friends. We all had best friends in school and some of you have held onto those friends. Some of you have realized once you had a baby all those friends dispersed like...well, like people without kids. Life changes when that little human pops out. For most of us once that baby entered this world the thought of all night with the girls, parties, clubs, 2 mile hikes, jet skiing, peaceful painting sessions or whatever you did for entertainment, seemed unimportant. For about 4-8 months, I would say, we go in "la la land" or maybe hell on Earth; it varies for us all, and enjoy our babies. Then one day you wake up and you realize. You realize that it has been 3 weeks since a human other than your mother has called you. You realize that when you are bored you get on Pinterest and swipe through EVERY. SINGLE. CATEGORY; You realize you tell your significant other about your girl problems. You say to yourself, "I am a loser" bury your face into your pillow and let out a sigh of dis-pear. I know some of you think I have been stalking you...I will keep letting you think that. Is that not what it feels like sometimes?
When I had my first baby I was only 19 and it was before the age of "Teen Mom." I was the only one with a baby and I felt all alone. No matter how great a friend is if they have not had a baby they don't truly understand what it means when you say, "I am exhausted" or "I don't have time." Being a mom is a lot of work and sometimes we get wore out. We feel crazy, happy, tired and busy all at the same time. We are the queens of multi-tasking, the best at kissing boo boos and cleaning up messes. We also are the best at not being real about what really happens behind closed doors and how we feel at 3 a.m. We are also the best at pretending we have it all together so no one thinks we are bad moms. We have perfected being fake. This is a horrible thing! This has to end! We have to let other women into our worlds. We must let them come over even when we have not cleaned in days, or even weeks! We must admit that at 3 a.m. you blurted out every profanity you could think of and possibly created new ones. We have to admit we are tired. We have to ask our friends to take our kids or an hour so you can clean the house or go to the store. We have to have arms wide open. I want all moms to be so honest that we are unashamed to admit we accidentally smacked our kids head into the car while putting him in the car seat. I mean come on ladies. Get real. Who hasn't picked up the pacifier off the grass and just popped it back into your kid’s mouth. Who cares! Stop judging each other and just laugh about it. Encourage each other to keep waking up and smiling. Find a friend that you can tell everything. Find a friend that laughs when you laugh and cries when you cry. It may take some time but it will be worth it.
I know this is possible because I have one of them! She encourages me, let's me vent, vents to me, laughs with me and so much more. We have even had our bad times but that is okay. If I did not have her in my life I would probably lose it. I have great friends but she is the woman I can run too with any mommy talk or personal talk. She is truly a blessing to me. I never realized the need for friendship, while you are a mom, until I met her.
So find a friend. Hug your friend. Call your friend. Love your friend. Be a friend.
When I had my first baby I was only 19 and it was before the age of "Teen Mom." I was the only one with a baby and I felt all alone. No matter how great a friend is if they have not had a baby they don't truly understand what it means when you say, "I am exhausted" or "I don't have time." Being a mom is a lot of work and sometimes we get wore out. We feel crazy, happy, tired and busy all at the same time. We are the queens of multi-tasking, the best at kissing boo boos and cleaning up messes. We also are the best at not being real about what really happens behind closed doors and how we feel at 3 a.m. We are also the best at pretending we have it all together so no one thinks we are bad moms. We have perfected being fake. This is a horrible thing! This has to end! We have to let other women into our worlds. We must let them come over even when we have not cleaned in days, or even weeks! We must admit that at 3 a.m. you blurted out every profanity you could think of and possibly created new ones. We have to admit we are tired. We have to ask our friends to take our kids or an hour so you can clean the house or go to the store. We have to have arms wide open. I want all moms to be so honest that we are unashamed to admit we accidentally smacked our kids head into the car while putting him in the car seat. I mean come on ladies. Get real. Who hasn't picked up the pacifier off the grass and just popped it back into your kid’s mouth. Who cares! Stop judging each other and just laugh about it. Encourage each other to keep waking up and smiling. Find a friend that you can tell everything. Find a friend that laughs when you laugh and cries when you cry. It may take some time but it will be worth it.
I know this is possible because I have one of them! She encourages me, let's me vent, vents to me, laughs with me and so much more. We have even had our bad times but that is okay. If I did not have her in my life I would probably lose it. I have great friends but she is the woman I can run too with any mommy talk or personal talk. She is truly a blessing to me. I never realized the need for friendship, while you are a mom, until I met her.
So find a friend. Hug your friend. Call your friend. Love your friend. Be a friend.